Unperforming Normal: Neuroaffirming Intimacy
Stop masking and trying to be "normal" sex.
Learn a radical, neuroaffirming framework to strip away societal expectations, identify your specific intimacy hurdles, and unlock your unique neuro-sexy skills.
No sign-up. No cost. Instant open access.
Why Is Unperforming Normal So Valuable?
Intimacy isn't one-size-fits-all, especially not for us neurodivergent folks.
For us, standard sexual advice often feels like a social chore or just mystifying. It's a performance we have to "mask" through just to fit in.
This creates "glitches": distraction, sensory overload, and often, a deep sense of shame and being "broken."
It takes 3 key steps to reset: Reject, Reveal, Reclaim.
In this video series, we break down why trying to run "neurotypical software" on "neurodivergent hardware" leaves us feeling exhausted, and how shifting to a neuroaffirming approach builds immediate pleasure and safety.
The Unperforming Normal Handbook
Download your free companion guide now. The whole course can be completed in under an hour.
The handbook includes:
- The "Shoulds" Bin: To help you physically deconstruct societal scripts.
- The Glitch Audit: To track your specific sensory and mental difficulties.
- The Sexy Skillset: To reframe your neurodivergent traits as physical intimacy strengths.
How to Get the Most Out of This Course
New skills can feel super awkward at first (like we need more things to make us feel awkward??).
Unlearning a lifetime of sex and intimacy "performance" can feel strange at first.
This 2-minute guide shows you how to get the most out of the handbook and navigate the three modules.
Minimal stress, maximal benefits.
Reject: Shoulds vs Wants
Ditch the Expectations
We’ve all been fed lists of "shoulds" about what sex is supposed to look like and how it's supposed to feel.
In this activity, we start by identifying what doesn't work for you.
You then gain further clarity by separating the shoulds from the wants, and end by giving yourself permission to only want what you actually want.
Reveal: The Glitch Audit
Identifying Your Specific Intimacy HurdlesIf you worry that you're bad at physical intimacy, this is for you. Instead of saying "I'm bad at sex," we look at the data in terms of what you personally struggle with.
- Are you getting distracted?
- Do you need something different to feel good?
- Are you experiencing a sensory "system error"?
We map the specific places where your brain and the performance clash, moving from shame to technical clarity.
Reclaim: The Neuro-Sexy Skillset
Unlocking Your Neurodivergent Strengths
This is the reframe.
Discover how your neurodivergent traits, like hyperfocus, sensory intensity, and deep pattern recognition, are actually high-level intimacy skills.
Learn to see your beautiful neurobiology as an asset, not a hurdle.
This is your new basis from which to unperfom intimacy.
The Path Forward: Step Into the Guild
Self-knowledge is the first step; practice is the next.
This final activity helps you take your new "unperformed" profile into the real world.
If you enjoyed these activities and would like to practice more, I’ll show you how to join our community.
What Clients Are Saying
"Amazing course, Tiga-Rose! We learned so much and enjoyed it wholeheartedly. We already want to do it again - highly recommended!"
- F.M.
"Really helpful course, lots of information to go forward with. The course provides important insights into relationship communication dynamics and how to understand our individual erotic profiles. "
- N.T.
"Tiga-Rose is an incredible therapist. I feel I have learned so much about myself as well as how I can better communicate in my marriage. Just wow!"
- S.B.
"Tiga-Rose is sensational! She is such a talented, knowledgeable presenter and this course was invaluable. Highly recommend it and looking forward to her making more courses in the future."
- T.J-T.
Why No Charge, No Signup?
Making Professional Support (A Little More) Accessible
Professional relationship therapy is often an expensive privilege, but I believe high-quality tools for connection should be a available for everyone to access.
Hence no email sign-up and no paywall.
You can simply watch, learn, and move from sexual performance to authentic, neuroaffirming intimacy immediately.
Hello! I'm Tiga-Rose Nercessian (she/her)
I’m an accredited Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist. I’m also a specialist trainer and academic researcher. I have been working in this field since 2015.
Personally, I am a queer, multi-neurodivergent, multi-ethnic synaesthete. These aspects of who I am form and inform me and my practice.
My work is trauma-informed and neurodivergent-affirming, ensuring you feel heard, held, and safe as you explore together.
My aim is to support and empower you to have happier, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships with yourself and others – whatever that looks like for you.
All Of Who You Are Is Welcome
Unperforming Normal: Neuroaffirming Intimacy is the essential starting point for any neurodivergent adult, individually or in a relationship, looking to improve their intimate life.
I recommend this course to everyone before they join the Glitch-Free Intimacy Guild (GFIG).
These materials are fully inclusive and designed for all intimate partnerships.
How Can I Help You Next?
The Glitch-Free Intimacy Guild
A private neurodivergent community for reclaiming sex & relationships.
Individual or Relationship Therapy
Ongoing short- and long-term therapy options.
Relationship Intensives
For when weekly therapy sessions aren't enough or you need a quicker outcome to your relationship challenge.
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