Unperforming Normal: Neuroaffirming Intimacy
Stop guessing, start sensing.
Gift yourself the tools and language to understand and ask for what you truly want and need.
This isn't theory or therapy: it's three activities that take you from confused and clouded to clear and confident.
No sign-up. No cost. Instant open access.
Why Is Unperforming Normal So Important?
Intimacy isn't one-size-fits-all, especially not for us neurodivergent folks.
For us, standard sexual advice often feels like a social chore or just plain mystifying!
Unperforming normal is about shedding those "normal" expectations. By mapping your 10 senses, you move away from pathologised sensory problems and toward a place where you really know how to understand yourself and your sensory needs.
It is the foundation for creating ways of living and loving that finally feel safe and satisfying.
The Unperforming Normal Handbook
Download your free companion coursebook now. It includes:
Activity 1: Meeting My Sensory Self Start by noticing the small things, from the weight of your feet to the interesting parts of your body.
Activity 2: Exploring My 10 Senses Go beyond the basics to reflect on the strength and joy found in all ten senses.
Activity 3: Clarifying My Sensory Sensitivities Map your unique profile to discover where you need more or less input to feel stimulated and to feel safe.
How to Get the Most Out of This Course
To gain maximum flavour from this course, I encourage you to move through it as slowly as you can.
Treat each activity as a partnership with your body rather than a task to be completed.
Use words, numbers, or images, whatever works else for you, to capture your sensations.
Notice if you feel any different after each activity. And remember, there's no getting it wrong or bad answer; it's all delicious discovery.
Activity 1: Meeting My Sensory Self
This is an introductory activity to help you return to yourself.
By noticing the small and the mundane, such as the tactile sensation of your own name or the shifting weight in your feet, you begin the work of being truly seen by yourself.
I encourage you to see this as a transition from the cognitive "why" to an embodied "how". Enjoy playing with yourself!
Activity 2: Exploring My 10 Senses
If you're curious as to why we're using the 10 senses, I suggest you read this article that explains why.
In this activity, we go beyond the basics to audit your sensory architecture.
Have fun musing on your relationship with your senses, including the reliability and joy found in the ten distinct systems.
Activity 3: Clarifying Sensory Sensitivities
Everyone’s sensory profile is different and can change at any moment due to internal or external factors.
By identifying where you need more input to feel stimulated and where you need less to feel safe, you start to establish a definitive manual for your own comfort and joy.
This provides the new basis from which to unperform "normal" intimacy.
What's Next?
Self-knowledge is the first step; practice is the next. So, how do you actually use what you've learned?!
These three activities are the first of five that make up a complete sensory profile. You already have the majority of the information you need, but if you wanted, you could add even more to the mix.
If you enjoyed these activities and would like to practice more, I’ll show you how to join our community: The Glitch-Free Intimacy Guild.
What Clients Are Saying
"Amazing course, Tiga-Rose! We learned so much and enjoyed it wholeheartedly. We already want to do it again - highly recommended!"
- F.M.
"Really helpful course, lots of information to go forward with. The course provides important insights into relationship communication dynamics and how to understand our individual erotic profiles. "
- N.T.
"Tiga-Rose is an incredible therapist. I feel I have learned so much about myself as well as how I can better communicate in my marriage. Just wow!"
- S.B.
"Tiga-Rose is sensational! She is such a talented, knowledgeable presenter and this course was invaluable. Highly recommend it and looking forward to her making more courses in the future."
- T.J-T.
Why No Charge, No Signup?
Making Professional Support (A Little More) Accessible
Professional relationship therapy is often an expensive privilege, but I believe high-quality tools for connection should be available for everyone to access.
Hence, no email sign-up and no paywall.
You can simply watch, learn, and move from sexual performance to authentic, neuroaffirming intimacy immediately.
Hello! I'm Tiga-Rose Nercessian (she/her)
I’m an accredited Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist. I’m also a specialist trainer and academic researcher. I have been working in this field since 2015.
Personally, I am a queer, multi-neurodivergent, multi-ethnic synaesthete. These aspects of who I am form and inform me and my practice.
My work is trauma-informed and neurodivergent-affirming, ensuring you feel heard, held, and safe as you explore together.
My aim is to support and empower you to have happier, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships with yourself and others – whatever that looks like for you.
All Of Who You Are Is Welcome
Unperforming Normal: Neuroaffirming Intimacy is the essential starting point for any neurodivergent adult, individually or in a relationship, looking to improve their intimate life.
I recommend this course to everyone before they join the Glitch-Free Intimacy Guild (GFIG).
These materials are fully inclusive and designed for all intimate partnerships.
How Can I Help You Next?
The Glitch-Free Intimacy Guild
A private neurodivergent community for reclaiming sex & relationships.
Individual or Relationship Therapy
Ongoing short- and long-term therapy options.
Relationship Intensives
For when weekly therapy sessions aren't enough or you need a quicker outcome to your relationship challenge.
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